Question: Do we need a rehearsal? A wedding director?

Answer:  This is a question I will discuss with you when we meet face-to-face.  The answer depends on several factors, such as the size of the wedding, the number in your wedding party, and the complexity of the ceremony itself.

First, if your wedding is small with few attendants and does not include any traditions and customs, then you probably can get by without a designated director or day coordinator.  If, for example, the wedding is going to be held in the back yard with no formal procession/recession with only a best man/maid of honor, then you will probably … Read More

Do you require and do we need pre-marital counseling?

Answer:  Great question!  I highly recommend that all engaged couples participate in pre-marital counseling.  I don’t, however, with some exceptions, require it.

Here’s one reason why I recommend pre-marital counseling: You can never know enough about you and the person you are marrying! 

There are two parts to that thought.  Let me explain…

First, you need to know as much about yourself as you possibly can.  You may think you already know all there is to know about you, your personality, likes/dislikes, preferences, and idiosyncrasies.  After all, you have lived with yourself for quite some time! But if you’re … Read More

Question: A religious or non-religious ceremony?

Answer: There’s so much pre-wedding work to do that it’s easy to make the mistake of leaving the ceremony until the last minute. This would be a shame, because the ceremony is the centerpiece of the celebration. The words spoken by you and your fiancé and by me as your wedding officiant are the words that send you into the world as a married couple. They should be well chosen, with your own tastes and personalities in mind.

One of the choices you face in crafting your wedding ceremony is how religious to make the ceremony.  While I studied and … Read More