Plan Your Marriage—Not Just a Wedding

Understatement of the year: A lot of work goes into planning a wedding. From picking the centerpieces to booking vendors, there are endless tasks to complete. However, more time and effort goes into a marriage, and frankly, that’s more important. Yes, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the excitement of planning the biggest day of your lives, and really, I think that’s fine! Choosing each detail and checking off to-do’s is a fun and memorable experience—but that shouldn’t be “it.” I’m certain that you both have often discuss your celebration to great lengths, but what I’ve found is that couples don’t often discuss what happens after the cake is cut and the dress is packed in and put away.

Need to get the conversation going? Here are some questions to discuss that I can help you with through pre-marital counseling:

• How can your partner make you happy on a daily basis?
• Besides love, what is your main reason for marrying your partner?
• What does the word “compromise” mean to you and how will you apply it to your marriage?
• Who will do the majority of the household chores or how will they be divided?
• If you plan to have children, how many would you want and when would you like to start growing your family?
• How much of your income would you like to save?
• Where would you like to eventually live: beach, city, suburbs?
• How do you prefer to spend your free time?
• Are you impulsive or a planner? How do you deal with the unexpected?
• Do you share the same level of religious commitment?
• How will you resolve disputes?

If you’re interested in pre-marital counseling, don’t hesitate to let me know.

Blessings,

Rev G